There are few marriages that do not need help in maintaining their relationship. A marriage without a good relationship is probably a marriage that’s not going to last. If it does last, those involved are usually not very happy and content.
What’s the difference between a marriage and a relationship, you might ask. A marriage is a bond formed by two people in holy matrimony; and in the eyes of man and the law they are united and only death or divorce can separate them.
A relationship is a meaningful feeling that’s formed after marriage and will continue to grow and deepen as long as the marriage is maintained. Relationships should actually begin long before the wedding vows are given.
It’s easy to tell if your marriage needs relationship help although others may notice it long before you. Tell tell signs include going to functions but going alone and offering excuses for the spouse not attending.
If you are together, you’re constantly criticizing each other and complaining about numerous petty annoyances. Or, it can go to the other extreme and you sit with each other but never talk. No matter what the other does or talks about, it’s boring and uninteresting.
Other signs of a declining relationship might be a dramatic lack of interest in the intimacy department. You’re both young and attractive, yet the spark isn’t there anymore while you fantasize about others.
Affection from your relationship is not existent. There are no hugs, no kisses and no one says I love you. Human beings need to be touched to feel worthy, happy and satisfied. If the touching is gone then there is a serious problem with your marriage.
Jealousy can be a turn off for your partner if carried to extremes. For the person who’s jealous he or she may withdraw from being intimate because they may view their partner as being unfaithful. For the person who’s being accused of wrong doing, they could also hold back feelings being tired of the constant badgering of jealous questions.
Be sure you’re not exaggerating the situation while establishing ground rules for both of you to abide by. If jealousy is a continuing problem and is growing, you should seek help. If intimacy is to return in your relationship, jealousy has to be curtailed.
Relationship problems can arise from debt. Lack of enough money in a marriage is always cause for concern but two people working together on a budget to live within their means can overcome a small income.
It’s when one or both spend too much money and the marriage begins to drown in debt that the relationship also begins to sink. Debt can literally drain the life blood from a once loving relationship.
All marriages suffer day to day problems in their relationship. Conflicts and disagreements are common and should be expected. Just take a relationship inventory from time to time to determine if you and your spouse are where you want to be. If adjustments are necessary make them and move forward.