We all love a secret. When someone says, “Can you keep a secret?” we’re all ears and can’t wait to hear what they will disclose that nobody else knows. Secrets are exciting to hear and to tell. After all, what good is learning a secret if you can’t tell it to someone?
If you’re reading this to learn the secrets to a happy marriage, you probably already know them and hopefully practice them daily. However, if your marriage is suffering and you’re wondering if it can be fixed, the answer is yes. But, it’s no secret it will take hard work, commitment and dedication.
Our culture teaches us that we’re missing something if we’re not married and raising a family. We want to find that special someone who will fulfill our life with happiness and love.
Even though almost half of those who get married find themselves ultimately in divorce court, marriage is still popular and desirable. 90% of adults will get married at least once. A large percentage of those who divorce will go on to marry a second or third time. Maybe they didn’t learn the secret.
A happy marriage doesn’t just happen by accident. Even the minister who married you cannot say for certain you will have a happy marriage. It takes hard work, commitment and dedication. It bears repeating and it should be repeated often by both parties involved. You can’t build a happy marriage alone, you must work together.
Treat each other with love and respect. You know you love your spouse but do you also like and respect them? No one is perfect and you must learn to love their faults as well as their virtues. Empathize and put yourself in their shoes. Many times there is no wrong or right, just a disagreement.
Talk to each other and learn each other’s needs and feelings. You’re not enemies but on the same team and nowhere does teamwork perform better than marriage. Don’t walk off without coming to an agreement. Again, there may be two rights and no wrongs. At times you must accept the wrong, laugh about it and forget it. Your spouse should do the same for you.
Marriage is more than a 50-50 proposition. A forgetful spouse is perhaps a true secret to a happy marriage. A spouse who holds a grudge and remembers ever little mistake or hurt could eventually lead to its downfall. Forget wrong doings and their faults, love them and forgive. No one said marriage is easy but it’s worth all the pain and hurt it may bring.
When you’re angry, respond with affection. Show your support and show genuine interest in what your spouse is trying to say or do. Don’t minimize their concerns and opinions. Be courteous and polite. You’d do the same thing for a friend and your spouse is your friend and more. Share responsibilities, share your feelings, give your love and you will have learned the secrets to a happy marriage.