Remember when you got married? Everything was wonderful because you were in love and were loved. Life was perfect as you anticipated a lifetime of wedded bliss and a future filled with love and happiness. Your wedding vows were so meaningful as you gazed into each other’s eyes knowing you would be together as long as you both shall live.
What happened? Now one or both of you is contemplating or threatening divorce. Marriage is not what you expected and your lover turned into a husband/wife. The love you once shared is never mentioned and certainly never felt as you drift farther and farther apart. You didn’t realize that being together for a lifetime could seem so long.
Unhappy marriages are not uncommon. Unhappiness sometimes begins on the honeymoon and sometimes years later. It can come suddenly or creep up on you like old age. Many of us have stared in the mirror and wondered who that old person is. It’s like that in marriage when you stare at your spouse and wonder who that stranger is.
Surely, that’s not the person you married.
But it is and you can be in love. You can stop your divorce and become happily married all over again with a little combined effort. Stop the divorce and don’t even mention the D word until you’ve given it a sincere try to rekindle the spark that was once there. Look closely and I’m sure you can see a little flame now.
Communicate and Negotiate
You’ve probably been told that to have a happy marriage you must communicate.So, begin with talking. Whatever’s been at the root of your problems discuss them openly and honestly. What have you got to lose? Communicate and negotiate. A good life is learning to compromise because it won’t always go your way. Don’t let the wind blow you away but bend a little.
Both of you bring to the talk table a list of things you’d like to see the other do to save the marriage. Don’t just be negative. List the things that annoy you but also list things that give you pleasure and make you smile. Take the list seriously and implement it today.
Make Him Special
Don’t let the list limit your actions. Create ways to make your partner feel special and loved again. Tell them in a short note that you love and appreciate them via email or a phone call. They may be busy so don’t linger. Say sweet nothings and leave them wanting more. Marriage should be fun and filled with humor. You’re more likely to live together if you laugh together.
Get closer. Touch each other. When you pass, kiss their neck or ear or squeeze their hand. Do things together instead of watching TV. Special interests together offer an opportunity to do more talking, bonding and remembering why you loved them in the first place. The bottom line here is to be friends as well as lovers. When respect returns so does love and when you love someone there is no need for divorce.
Seek Professional Help
Either accept these qualities in your partner or seek professional help. Qualified help can be found in person, in books or online. The sooner you seek help the better. Marriage problems can cause depression and anger affecting the entire family. Watch for these signs of a troubled marriage and resolve to take action.
“Save the Marriage” – by Dr.Lee Baucom, Ph.D
Save The Marriage system will give you an understanding of what happened to your marriage, how to save it, and how to start creating the marriage of your dreams. You will benefit from author’s nearly, twenty two years of experience working with clients, in person, and literally, thousands of couples in various settings.
Save the Marriage system is designed to change your understanding of marriage , and especially your understanding of the problems. Here’s why: if you just keep thinking about things the way you have, you will only stay where you have been — stuck and going down! Albert Einstein said “We can’t solve problems by using the same kind of thinking we used when we created them.”
This system has ideas and information readable and easily understood.No “psycho -babble” here, just the facts, ideas, and actions you need to save your marriage. The author will tell you what went wrong, what to do to change it, and how to do it.
Starting tonight. . . in fact, in the next 10 minutes, you can start saving your marriage and moving toward the marriage relationship you always dreamed about.
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