Do you feel that your husband is neglecting you? You are not alone; many married women go through the same problem where they feel unwanted by the same person who was supposed to treasure and cherish them. For many, it has not always been like that. One day you were happy and in love, he was caring and he worshiped the ground you walked on so the so the big question remains to be, “what went wrong?”
You are probably hurting and in a dilemma. You are not sure whether you should leave or stay and hope that one day he will suddenly be the man you fell in love with. You go to bed every day wondering whether he will ever change or your chance of a happy marriage life is a chase after the wind. No need to despair as in your hands, you hold the power to make your man give the attention he gave you when you first met. You can make him attentive and so romantic that even your friends will envy you.
Here are a few tips on how to get his attention back.
Communicate your feelings
Feeling ignored may make you resentful and angry and you may end up bottling all those emotions in. This will only add to your already long list of problems so instead, talk to your husband and let him know how you feel. Be honest, polite but be firm and let him know that your happiness is a priority not an option. Tell him his mistakes and your expectations.
However, you should be careful not to blame or accuse him of things as although you may be right, he will see it as an attack and immediately get defensive. When this happens, you will not get through to him and you are likely to get into an argument. This will only widen the wedge between the two of you some more.
Create some distance between the two of you
They say absence makes the heart grow fonder. They were right so if you feel you are not getting the attention you deserve; it is time to turn the tables. Your ever-present love and devotion may be the reason he got too comfortable and stopped caring. He feels that you are always going to be there for him and therefore does not need to work for your devotion any more. Having you require his attention thought may be another reason why he stopped caring too much.
If you pay more attention to other things and less attention to him, he will start feeling insecure. He will realize that your world no longer revolves around him and he will give you the attention you want and deserve.
Get a Life.
As much as devoting all your time and energy to your family is a good thing, it could work against you. Your husband is likely to devalue you for focusing all your attention to him and your household activities. An easy solution to this is by simply finding something, outside your home, that you can focus your interest on. Get a job, volunteer in the local charity or get a hobby. This will make him value you more.
Seek the help of a Marriage Counselor
If all your efforts are fruitless, you may want to consider getting a professional opinion since there may be a bigger underlying problem. The marriage specialist will help you determine the root of the problem and advise you on how to deal with it. The counselor may also give you useful tips on how to get his attention back.
These tried and tested ways may not be the answer to all your problems but they will surely get you on the way to winning his attention back.