Having or creating a marriage bible can go a long way toward having and maintaining a strong relationship. Many couples find that having tangible guidelines to provide direction in their married life keeps them on the path to happiness. This works not only to help in marriage but in everyday life as well.
Some have drawn up the Ten Commandments of Marriage and used various sources for their list. It could just as easily be called the Ten Commitments of Marriage. The Bible is a valuable resource along with other good books and on line sources.
Entering into a marriage with an open and hopeful heart is a good beginning. Be aware of any problems that may cause trouble at the onset. For instance, studies show that marriage has a 24% less chance of divorce if you have children after rather than before getting married. Waiting to have children later in the marriage gives you time to become accustomed to each other and prepare to better provide for children.
It’s also known that you have a 25% less chance of divorce if you’re over 25 when you enter into marriage and a 30% less chance of not succeeding if your income is over $50,000 a year. The reasons for these are obvious.
As you age, you should mature and think not as a child but as an adult. Money problems and not being able to meet financial obligations is one of the main reasons for divorce. Being aware of these potential problems enables you to prepare a course of action to avoid them.
The Christian Bible states in Genesis that “The Lord God said it is not good that man should be alone. I will make him a help meet.” It continued to teach, “Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother and shall cleave unto his wife and they shall be one flesh.”
A suggestion that seems to find its way into most commitments for a happy marriage is found in Ephesians 4:26 that states, “If you are angry, don’t sin by nursing your grudge. Don’t let the sun go down with you still angry. Get over it quickly.” Marriages that observe this rule are said to be long lived.
• Add to your list of commitments that there is to be no one other than your spouse and you will be faithful only to him or her.
• Do not criticize your spouse. If there is something that annoys you, talk it over and resolve the problem.
• Set aside time to be together. Make every day special. If your job or other obligations don’t allow this then you’re too busy.
• Love is not jealous. Be happy for your spouse in every way and share the happiness in their accomplishments. Boast tactfully of your husband or wife.
• Love your in-laws.
Some of these are easier to commit to than others but all are important. Tailor your list to suit your particular marriage, post it in a conspicuous place and review it often.